Why You Should Never Go Back To Your Ex
This is a tale older than time: You break up with someone and you think you’ll never speak to them again. But then, a few weeks or months later, you find yourself missing them.
Suddenly, all of the reasons why you broke up in the first place seem to disappear and you start thinking about getting back together.
But before you decide to go back to your ex, consider some of the reasons why it might not be such a good idea.
10 reasons why you shouldn’t get back with your ex
1. It won’t be the same
No matter how much you want things to go back to the way they were, it’s just not going to happen. People change and circumstances change. Trying to re-create a past relationship is only going to lead to disappointment.
2. You’re not over them yet
If you’re thinking about getting back together with your ex, it’s probably because you’re not over them yet. You need to take some time to heal and move on, as right now your judgment is probably clouded.
3. It’ll be awkward
If you do end up getting back together, it’s going to be really awkward at first. You’ll have to get reacquainted with each other all over again and there will be a lot of awkwardness. Not just between you guys, but also with your friends and family.
4. You broke up for a reason
There was a reason, more than likely a very good one, why you broke up in the first place. It was important enough to separate you once, so what makes you think the same problems won’t crop up again?
5. You might not be compatible anymore
The reality is, that you and your ex might not be compatible anymore. People change and evolve all the time. Experiences shape us and change our perspective. Just because you were compatible at one point in your life, doesn’t mean you still are.
6. Their feelings toward you might have changed
While you might still be in love with your ex, their feelings might have changed. Even if you do get back together, you might find that the love they once had for you is gone and they’re only back with you because you’re familiar, not because you’re “the one”.
7. You could end up getting hurt even more
There’s a very real possibility that you could end up even more hurt than you were the first time you split up. If things don’t work out this time around, it’ll be much harder to move on because you’ll have invested yourself emotionally all over again.
8. Partners during the split may complicate things
If either you or your ex moved on and dated other people during the split, it could make things really complicated if you decide to get back together.
Human beings are irrational creatures. Even if the separation was thought to be permanent at the time, this won’t stop jealousy from arising. You might not be able to get past the fact that they were with someone else during the split, or vice versa.
9. You may have insulted each other to friends and family
During the split, you and your ex might have said some hurtful things about each other to your nearest and dearest. This could cause them to dislike you and view you in a negative light.
If you do decide to get back together with your ex, you’ll have to deal with the fact that their friends’ and family’s opinion of you has changed, or that they know embarrassing things about you your ex told them when they thought you’d never speak again.
10. You won’t get to meet “The One”
If you’re thinking about getting back with your ex, it’s probably because you’re afraid you’ll never find anyone else. But the truth is, if you don’t give yourself a chance to meet someone new, you’ll never find out if there’s someone out there who’s even better for you than your ex.
Conclusion
In general, you should always try to move forward, not backward. Life is all about growth, change, and progress. Going back to your ex is only going to hold you back from finding someone who could make you even happier than they ever could.